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From: rcd@opus.UUCP (Dick Dunn)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: drooling for marriage
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Date: Sat, 19-May-84 04:59:14 EDT
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Posted: Sat May 19 04:59:14 1984
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An excerpt from a recent posting:
>I get bloody tired of this "your place or mine?" stuff and, even when I was
>living with my lover, because I am so socialized to think about marriage, I
>always felt on edge because I knew there was no commitment between us.

If you equate unmarried <=> lack of commitment, or if you equate married
<=> commitment, you're liable to get surprised and badly hurt.  A piece of
paper doesn't make commitment.  If you knew there wasn't commitment between
you and your lover, what was the point of living together?  Marriage
certainly wouldn't have helped.
[Let me digress a bit and point out that marriage WON'T fix anything that's
really wrong with a relationship.  It can smooth out some social problems
associated with living together, but only the superficial ones, and that's
about it.]
-- 
...A friend of the devil is a friend of mine.		Dick Dunn
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