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From: tpchmara@wateng.UUCP (Tom Chmara)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: old loves die hard...(no, not Triumvirat)
Message-ID: <1014@wateng.UUCP>
Date: Tue, 22-May-84 23:24:49 EDT
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Posted: Tue May 22 23:24:49 1984
Date-Received: Wed, 23-May-84 09:56:34 EDT
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[munch..munch..munch...uurrrp]

I'm sorry to hear that your (how's SO for a nice generic?) isn't interested
in continuing a friendship.  I understand how one's feelings take on a strong
resemblance to salted wounds, but I can assure you it is worth sticking
together.  ( My credentials along this line aren't very impressive: I can't
say I've had a particularly eventful love life...)
	I have been very fortunate in that the two times in my life that
I have had what I would stretch my imagination to call a breakup have been
very civilized things.  I am happy to say I am still very close to both of them
and consider them two of my best friends.  I can talk with them and know they
understand what I am saying when I bang my gums together.  The flavour of the
relationship has changed, but who we are remains the same; it would be a shame
to lose the closeness of such special people.  There had to be
some love between the two of you if you've been together this long; I can't
believe that whatever you saw in each other has disappeared, consumed in one
short year.
	Sorry if I've made this sound easy.  It isn't always.  In the case of
one of the two (where she initiated the break) I still get twinges every
once in a while, but it gets progressively easier to deal with.  Considering
that aspect of the relationship died about 2 years back (and there would be
some who would say there wasn't much there even then) my own record isn't
great, but I assure you the friendship and love is worth a mountain of twinges.
The fact that there is again someone in my life for whom I care very strongly
is making things just that much easier.  Mind you, if she ever finds out
how DULL I can be, I may be back for your counsel :-)
	This has been long, rambling, and probably pretty bad, as well.
It's late.  Get off my case.  Seriously, though, I hope things work out for
you.  Letting her know that you still care is probably the best thing you
can do.
		``Practising without a license?  But officer, how
		  will I get it right if I don't practise?''
			---tpc---