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From: pooh@ut-sally.UUCP (Wendy P. Nather)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Various Topics
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Date: Wed, 23-May-84 10:04:12 EDT
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Posted: Wed May 23 10:04:12 1984
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Spafford, thank you for a thoughtful article.  I'm new
to the net but wanted to throw my (brief) two cents in:

After reading all this discussion on SO Searching (new
acronym possibilities?), I would like to reinforce what
has been said by a few patient people.  Don't look.

One of the most valuable and comforting things a
close friend and advisor said to me, from his vantage
point of +25 years, was this:  if someone had asked
him what he would have done differently in his 20's,
he would have taken things a lot less seriously and
relaxed a lot more.  Take the long view.  It's hard,
but you have an incredible amount of time ahead of
you, and when you *do* find your SO you will laugh at
how frantic you were before.  (Think of it as trying
to save yourself embarrassment. . .:-)

Along with this is the variant of Murphy's Law (which,
if it hasn't been mentioned before, is hereby dubbed
Pooh's Law): the minute you give up and decide you're
never going to find love, it will sneak up behind you,
breathe tenderly down the back of your neck, and when
you turn around, sock you in the face.

Relax.  Give in and give up.  It's the way to make
the best things in life come to you.

                                             [suggestions for signoff?]
                     Wendy P. Nather