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From: pooh@ut-sally.UUCP (Wendy P. Nather)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: In defense of marriage (thoughts from an ivory tower)
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Date: Fri, 25-May-84 10:48:26 EDT
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Posted: Fri May 25 10:48:26 1984
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Welcome to the Ivory Tower Club!
I'm a member too, but have seen enough of my friends go down the
tubes--oops! I mean tie the knot :-) --to have formed my own
opinions about marriage.

I also have a friend who has been living with his girlfriend
for five years and neither of them wants to marry.  Hearing
him talk about it, it boils down to "why should we?"  And this
is okay.

The key question has been elegantly expressed: "Why DON'T
you want to marry?  Why does it bother you so?"  If you know
your commitment is real, then the slip of paper wouldn't
hurt, would it?

In summing up, I would never attempt to tell another couple
whether to marry; but if my own SO were rabidly against
it, I would want to sit down and have a long talk with him
and find out why.  It's simply not good if one partner wants
to get married and the other doesn't.  When both don't,
more power to 'em.

Pooh                                     [Sing Ho! for the life of
                                          a Bear!~  {thanks, Ken!}]