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From: drr@ihopa.UUCP (D. R. Rueckheim)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Men, Sex & Power
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Date: Wed, 30-May-84 11:53:40 EDT
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Posted: Wed May 30 11:53:40 1984
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In response to the statement "Sex and power don't go well
together" I have a comment to add. In my life of 32 years
I have noticed that a relationship where one person is 
definitely and undoubtedly in control seems to work very well.
This is just an observation of mine that seem to make sense.
It seems to follow a business relationship where there is a 
boss and a worker. But just like a business its success
depends on how good of a boss the boss is. It just seems that
things work better when there is one point where the
responsibility for decisions is placed. This is not to imply
that in a female male relationship the female or the male
should always be in charge. In my experience it is about a
50/50 ratio, and I don't see any noticable difference between
the female dominated and male dominated relationships. The 
main thing is that when you are together you have to learn
that we should come before I. There is just no way around it.
If the relationship has more I concerns than WE concerns then
if will fail as a relationship. 
I am not trying to act like I have all the answers, but I know
what I see and experience.
Please send all flames to the good will in your town. They
will gladly accept them.
-- 
        D. R. Rueckheim
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	AT&T Bell Labs, Naperville, Il.