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From: julian@deepthot.UUCP (Julian Davies)
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Subject: Re: reasons for getting married
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Date: Fri, 1-Jun-84 12:59:26 EDT
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That was an interesting comment.  Being 38 and divorced, I agree that
  a) pleasing society
  b) children
  c) inheritance
aren't valid reasons.  I do have children, and so far find I'm doing a
much better job of being a parent while single than I did while
married.   Personally I think that *if* I marry again, it will be
because after very careful (prayerful) consideration by both of us,
that seems to be the appropriate thing to do.  This comes almost
under the heading of 'commitment', so I don't quite agree that
commitment isn't a valid reason.
  My view of marriage vs. commitment is that marriage is a very
seriously considered public declaration of permanent commitment.
As such, if a 'committed' relationship runs into difficulties at some
stage, it *may* (but not necessarily) help to be able to remember
that the two of you are married, and not be hasty to break things
up.  On the other hand, I am now well aware that marriage isn't a
guarantee of permanence.  Some people may find marrriage helpful,
while others don't.

  Why do people *actually* get married?
My hypotheses:
  1)  sex
  2)  because "all" ones friends are marrying  (this explains the
	flood of marriages at end of college, early 20s, etc.)

		Julian Davies