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From: pooh@ut-sally.UUCP (Wendy P. Nather)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: guilt and SO's - (nf)
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Date: Thu, 31-May-84 14:03:02 EDT
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Posted: Thu May 31 14:03:02 1984
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Jeff, please don't worry about not wanting an SO "all the
time."  It's only normal, no matter what the cause (Hairy
Thunderer or Cosmic Muffin), to go through cycles.  Perhaps
you are meant, at this stage in your life, to spend more time
on yourself, building your character and getting to know yourself
in preparation for the next relationship.  Try to accept
it as such, and relax.

I have been going through somewhat the same thing in the past
two years, and I am seeing it as a chance to learn skills that
I wouldn't be able to otherwise: independence, openness,
how to live with myself.  As a result, I am in no hurry to find
an SO, and while I am still capable of loving and sharing with
people, I don't feel the need to "pair off".  Probably because
of this slight change in my perceptions, I've been "single" all
this time and it doesn't bother me.

Dulling your feelings when seeing other people paired off is
just part of this process.  It just keeps it from hurting and
keeps your attention on other things.


Wendy         {ihnp4!,seismo!}ut-sally!pooh

					["I've lost my equilibrium,
                                          and my car keys, and my pride. . ."]