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From: seifert@ihuxl.UUCP (D.A. Seifert)
Newsgroups: net.women
Subject: Re:  friendships among women
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Date: Thu, 24-May-84 09:36:49 EDT
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Posted: Thu May 24 09:36:49 1984
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{ imported from net.women.only, is there a tariff? :-)  }

	JAM:
> I thought found that friendships among girls/women were much
> closer than those that men seem to have. A lot of men are forever
> competing so that, even with their friends, they are always em-
> phasizing how much they can drink or how much their car cost or
> how often they have sex, etc. The friend can not relax as he is
> always thinking of ways to show he is not inferior.

Yes, that silly competition really gets in the way.  Thus many
of my close friends are women.  No competition.  Of course there's
the problem that it's sometimes hard to tell if a new friend
wants to be 'platonic' or 'romantic' type friends. "Already have
a date?  Huh? .......OH! I didn't mean.....bye."

So, anyone have any theories of whether this 'competition'
is inherent or learned?  => Can it be 'unlearned'? Does everyone
believe it is 'bad', or is there a use for it?  => Should
women be more competitive, or men less competitive, or both,
or...?

Is there a good way of asking out a MOTOS without it sounding
like a 'date' ? 

Is Snoopy ever going to run out of questions?   :-)
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