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From: anita@drux3.UUCP
Newsgroups: net.women.only
Subject: friendships among women
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Date: Fri, 18-May-84 12:34:18 EDT
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Posted: Fri May 18 12:34:18 1984
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I don't know if this topic has been discussed here before, but here goes.

I've been quite aware since I was a teenager that the bonds of female
friendship in American society are not very strong.  The topic has been
discussed quite a bit in the media, etc., but I really haven't noticed
much improvement.  I really expected that with the spread of feminism
women would become more aware of the value of female friends, but I don't
see much evidence of that in my everyday life.  Since most of the women I
meet are professionals, and thus at least somewhat more liberal than the
general population, I find this a little disturbing.  I still find men
maintaining male friendships much more strongly after they start a
love relationship than women do.  This is becoming an important topic with
me as being in a male dominated field already, it's becoming harder and
harder to find women who have any interest in having a real friendship
with a woman, because the few women I meet are, for the most part, involved
in steady relationships with men.
This seems to preclude any possiblity of having any strong bond to anyone
but their husbands (or boyfriends).  From what I understand this isn't the
case in some other countries.  Does anyone have any information on this,
or any experiences that may shed some light on the subject?

                                             Anita

P.S. - I am currently involved in a serious relationship with a man.