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From: dyer@wivax.UUCP (Stephen Dyer)
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Subject: Role of monogamy in a relationship
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Date: Sun, 15-Jul-84 11:27:13 EDT
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Posted: Sun Jul 15 11:27:13 1984
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Since there's been mention of how gay people are redefining many of the accepted
roles in a relationship, I'd like to ask about one specific aspect: the need
(or not) for monogamy in an ongoing relationship.

It's been my experience that straight couples, married or not, place great
value on monogamy, and that going outside the relationship for sex or
affection constitutes A PRIORI "betrayal."  This hasn't been the presumption
in most gay male relationships I'm familiar with (regardless of their
practice.) 

These generalizations naturally don't hold for every individual couple,
which has to come up with some decision, explicit or not, about monogamy.
I am interested to hear what other lesbians and gay men feel about this,
how thay have dealt with it in their own relationships, and what they feel
is an ideal (if there is any at all.)
-- 
/Steve Dyer
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