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From: sebb@pyuxss.UUCP (S Badian)
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Subject: Re: Beauty and the Jerks
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Date: Thu, 28-Jun-84 09:18:54 EDT
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Posted: Thu Jun 28 09:18:54 1984
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	At the risk of sounding too psycho-analytical, I'll
stick my neck out on this one. People tend to form their
concept of love at home. This seems very rational; your
parents are the first one to show you love, and you depend
on them for your food, shelter, attention, etc. What if
your parent's form of love is a little warped? The only time
you get attention is when they hit you, or yell at you, or
treat you like shit. What kind of person will this child 
ultimately end up with, on the average? Someone just like
Mom and Dad(sidenote-my mom read somewhere that women tend
to marry men more like there mothers than their fathers).
Which means that they'll end up with some "jerk." 
	Of course, this is a gross generalization. Ways of
bringing up children change with the years. My parents were
spanked, but no one ever laid a hand on me(thank you Dr. Spock).
And people are able to break out of the molds of the family.
If someone going out with a jerk suddenly realized that they
were taking am awful lot of crap from their SO, they might
consider anaylsis to straighten out their concept of love.
	As someone said before- you can't judge a relationship
from the outside. You just can't see all the angles.
				Sharon Badian