Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10 3/23/84; site cbosgd.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!mgnetp!ihnp4!cbosgd!rbg From: rbg@cbosgd.UUCP (Richard Goldschmidt) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Intelligent and single women Message-ID: <70@cbosgd.UUCP> Date: Thu, 28-Jun-84 11:21:58 EDT Article-I.D.: cbosgd.70 Posted: Thu Jun 28 11:21:58 1984 Date-Received: Sat, 30-Jun-84 04:19:40 EDT References: <802@shark.UUCP> <1045@nsc.UUCP> <21@cbosgd.UUCP> <1072@nsc.UUCP>, <26@cbosgd.UUCP> <8115@watmath.UUCP> Organization: AT&T Bell Laboratories, Columbus Lines: 22 It is hard to compare people, even under the best circumstances, and trying to compare people over the net where the person doing the comparing is also unknown is even more difficult, but let me try again. The issue seems to revolve around "interest" vs. "intelligence". I made the point that my former SO -nurse- had similar work interests, but didn't she contribute many ideas to our discussions (not just work related discussions!). My current SO -microbiologist- contributes much more to our interactions even though she doesn't have similar work interests, and knows even less about my work. The personalities of these two people are very similar, I care about them both. One of them generates many original ideas and interesting suggestions while the other is not very interested in ideas and discovery. One is very intelligent while the other is slightly above average. I am really surprised that there seems to be an unwillingness (by chuq & sophie) to accept that there can be large differences in intelligence between individuals and that these can affect the quality of a relationship. That is how this discussion got started in the first place: people want to find an SO who is at a comparable level of intelligence. Intelligence was the only reason I left my former SO (and it wasn't an easy decision). I'm just glad I did and have found someone who is so much better for me. --Rich Goldschmidt cbosgd!rbg