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From: keith@seismo.UUCP
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: THE kiss of death (insecure women)
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Date: Wed, 27-Jun-84 10:49:21 EDT
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Posted: Wed Jun 27 10:49:21 1984
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	Just a kinda throw away: I've seen relationships where jerks got 
"further" (how do you wish to define further) because they were such
insensitive creeps that they kept pushing until the SO gave in.  Note: This
includes cases with both male and female SOs.  Also note, this implies an 
SO with at least some degree of insecurity.  
	I think that the quality of the relationship comes into question 
here; do you want a casual SO or do you want a quality happening?  The
mature, caring (etc. etc. ad nauseum) people that I know tend NOT to have
numerous relationships. They tend to prefer their own company to the
company of "jerks".  Therefore, to the casual observer, they may appear to 
be unwanted/undesirable.  
	Final note; don't know if this applies here, but it seems like a lot
of people (mostly male) that I know, while paying a great deal of lip service
to the ideal of a genuine, loving partnership (damn that Alan Alda) feel the 
need to hang a few scalps on their belts; and what's more, to have their 
friends (again, mostly male) see them as someone who can not only assemble
a Sears lawnmower but nail the wandering SO.  Perhaps a "normal" little part
of proving oneself?  Certainly for men, and I think to an increasing extent
for women.

		My SO is red hot, your SO ain't doodly squat,
		Keith 
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