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From: aeq@pucc-h (Jeff Sargent)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: beauty vs. prettiness/cuteness
Message-ID: <802@pucc-h>
Date: Thu, 28-Jun-84 23:01:45 EDT
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Posted: Thu Jun 28 23:01:45 1984
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Numerous articles recently have talked about dating beautiful women.  I have
a theory that men of my generation (born in the 50's and early 60's), due to
early conditioning, really don't want BEAUTIFUL women; rather, they want CUTE
women.	(One contemporary and fellow-sufferer of mine has frequently been
known to find cute women attractive, but not beautiful ones.)  I suspect that
men around my age (29 on 06/22), no matter how liberated they may claim to be,
still carry the image that the ideal woman is cute and not too intelligent --
i.e. that the woman will still be a little girl when she's 40, so the man can
be the strong one in the family.  Many men probably feel that if a woman is a
strong person in her own right, she will be a threat; since she won't need to
depend on a man (and thus give him her love in order to ensure her physical
survival), she will be able to be much more selective when she picks the man
she will love.

Further support for this theory may be seen in the fact that the young lady
I have dated sporadically for the last several months is beautiful (a trifle
overweight, but less so than many women who have successfully attracted men)
and very intelligent (she is approaching a Ph.D. in a highly technical field);
and she has had great difficulty in attracting men.  One reason I date her is
that I think we can understand each other, since we've both had difficulties
in trying to relate to MOTOS's.  Part of me appreciates her beauty and
intelligence (which gives her a pretty good sense of humor); but another part
of me deplores the fact that she's not cute and airheaded.  Sometimes I think
I ought to find the ditziest frosh or sophomore girl on campus and date her
just to get this early conditioning out of my system.


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-- Jeff Sargent
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"...got to find my corner of the sky."