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From: timothy@druxt.UUCP (MorrisseyTJ)
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Subject: Re: Responding to the ORIGINAL jerk question
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Date: Fri, 29-Jun-84 11:01:50 EDT
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responding to JAM:

A couple weeks ago I went to  presentation by the Boulder County
Safehouse for Battered Women.  I was overwhelmed by the following
facts:

		Raymond H.C. Teske and Mary L. Parker, "Spouse Abuse in
		Texas: A Study of Women's Attitudes and Experiences"

	A battering incident is rarely an isolated occurance; it
	usually recurs frequently.  According to a 1982 survey of women
	in Texas, 19 percent of the women who were abused during the
	previous year, and 25 percent of the women abused during their
	lifetimes had been victimized at least once a week.


		Department of Justice, "Report to the Nation on Crime
		and Justice"

	In almost three quarters of reported spouse assaults, the
	victim was divorced or separated at the time of the incident.
	This finding suggests that battering may be more prevalent than
	currently estimated, since most incidence surveys limit their
	samples to married couples.

And it gets worse. While reading the stuff I have here, you would see things
like:

	Battering tends to escalate in severity over time.

	... battering accounted for 25 percent of attempted suicide
	attempts by women.

	Men commit 95 percent of all assaults on spouses ...

	Medical clinicians often fail to recognize women's injuries as
	a result of wife abuse.

Moreover, 54 percent of the women to finally go to the Boulder Safehouse
return to the battering realtionship.

There is a common pattern to battering, it goes something like this:

	1) man is very irritable, woman "walks on eggshells" to keep him calm

	2) man strikes out

	3) man becaome contrite and loving, promises he won't do it again, etc.

	4) woman sees the man she loves, stays and returns to step #1

Finally, there seems to be only one solution to being battered - leave.

Tim
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