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From: rainbow@ihuxe.UUCP
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Subject: RE:the chicken or the egg
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Date: Mon, 2-Jul-84 18:12:28 EDT
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Posted: Mon Jul  2 18:12:28 1984
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> What if Trish had already decided (consciously or unconsciously)
> that men are assholes?  What kind of men would she attract?  Why
> would a sensitive, caring man become involved with her, unless he
> had very low self-esteem?  Wouldn't she tend to attract losers?
> Wouldn't her experiences all seem to confirm her original belief
> about men?

Hey... Slow down... Hold on a minute here...
Since when are people guilty before proven innocent. Shall I start making
unfounded accusations against you? And have everyone jump on the bandwagon
and agree? You'll have no recourse if no one has the guts to speak out in
your behalf. You'll be publicly ostracized over the net. Anyway, back to the
content of your article, you seem to think people make decisions on a subject
matter in which they have absolutely no experience with. I'm sure Trish didn't
one day just on whim decide men are not as sensitive/feeling/understanding as
women. I assume most people are open-minded until they have reason to feel 
otherwise. On the otherhand it is obvious you aren't this way 
because you brand Trish with no data. So it is understandable 
you think other people are the same way. Once again I feel sorry
for you though I know not why. And lastly, I really dont think
Trish is trying to attract men in the first place. She makes that perfectly
clear. So she will be in a position to impartially judge a good cross section
of men. All your comments are inapplicable. Why wouldn't any man be able to
get acquainted with Trish just as a friend? Why do you assume any male/female
interaction must lead to involvement or a relationship? A sensitive caring
man would respect her choice and leave it at that. Just friends. A loser
wouldn't bother with any kind of effort in the first place. What has
self-esteem got to do with it? Your argument might work in reverse though.
Maybe those guys with high self-esteem(ie macho types) just wont leave her
alone and continually harrass her. Those that dont understand that there is
such a thing as friendship. That would consistantly provide constant
verification and support for her original decision. But then you would
have to try and convince me that all other types of men will have nothing
to do with her. And you just argued against that.