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From: aeq@pucc-h (Jeff Sargent)
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Subject: Re: RE:the chicken or the egg
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Date: Tue, 3-Jul-84 03:46:28 EDT
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Posted: Tue Jul  3 03:46:28 1984
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A quick comment on an article from "rainbow":

> Maybe those guys with high self-esteem (ie macho types) just won't leave her
> [Trish] alone and continually harass her.  Those that don't understand that
> there is such a thing as friendship.

My impression is that the macho types have low actual self-esteem, and thus
are very intent on a) proving their strength, masculinity, worth as a person,
etc., b) finding someone who will fill their deep need for affirmation fully,
and hence wanting more than a friendship.  They act strong and seem to think
they're great, but they don't really think they are; this shows up in the
hostility to the world, or at least to other men, that seems to characterize
many of them.

Note that this may partially be a sour-grapes attitude:  Never myself having
been able to carry off the macho act, envious of those that could, and having
my own difficulties with my self-image, I may be judging the macho types too
harshly -- especially considering that many of them manage to get steady
girlfriends, a feat I have never really managed.

-- 
-- Jeff Sargent
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