Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1.chuqui 4/7/84; site nsc.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxl!houxm!ihnp4!nsc!chuqui From: chuqui@nsc.UUCP (Chuq Von Rospach) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Ok youse guys.... Message-ID: <1149@nsc.UUCP> Date: Fri, 6-Jul-84 14:28:22 EDT Article-I.D.: nsc.1149 Posted: Fri Jul 6 14:28:22 1984 Date-Received: Sat, 7-Jul-84 01:58:38 EDT References: <8610@gatech.UUCP> Organization: The Warlocks Cave Lines: 157 :-) Gene Spafford Chuqles :-) First of all, they felt that they weren't good enough. :-) I still find this hard to believe, but a couple of women have told me :-) that they thought they didn't deserve someone as nice as me -- that I :-) deserved better. HA! I've seen this happen a number of times to a number of people. Whether or not YOU are good enough for me is not something you can decide. Give ME a chance to decide that, just like I'll try to give YOU a chance to decide about me. If both of us mutually decide yes, you have a good thing going. If one person decides unilaterally, you never have a chance. :-) My current SO and I started because she perceived me as a nice :-) guy and needed someone to talk with; she discovered I can do more than :-) talk. She thinks I'm a very nice guy. Aha! the REAL reason spaf has been SOOOO quiet. exhaustion can do that to a person... (~Like, wow! All that and brains, too!~) :-) Then too, I may not be a "nice guy" in everyone's eyes. What matters :-) is that I am happy with my own behavior. You should NEVER get yourself into a situation where you are trying to please everyone around you, or where your attitudes about yourself are formed by those around you. You'll never get EVERYONE to like you, no matter how much you try. The ONLY person you HAVE to make happy is yourself. If you can make other people happy as well, that is just icing on the cake. :-) I've found that friends will :-) get you through times of no lovers better than lovers will get you :-) through times of no friends. Hear! Hear! Well Spoken Bruce. :-) Drugs :-) ----- :-) I don't use 'em. I don't need 'em. My view of life is warped enough. :-) Just ask Chuq, or Lisa, or any of my other friends or correspondants. :-) Unless of course you consider chocolate, single-malt scotch, apricots, :-) strawberries, fusion jazz, fast cars, fortran, kittens (without duct :-) tape, Gordon), science fiction, or hugs as drugs. Of course, perhaps :-) I am a drug. I know at least one person who can't seem to get enough :-) of me; luckily, I don't view that as drug abuse. Spafford is the only person I know that gives the drugs trips instead of the other way around. Once you learn how to get high on life, getting high on other things is intensely disappointing and artificial. :-) Love is the drug. Shooting up is fun. Love is life. Life is the drug. Shooting up is illegal and leaves funny marks on your body (love can leave funny marks on your body as well, but it isn't illegal (except in New Jersey). :-) I put women up on pedestals. It makes it easier to look up their :-) dresses. *oop* *ack* You shouldn't have told them... Now they'll all wear pants. :-) If you're going to put someone up on a pedestal, join them up there. :-) Don't expect them to be significantly better or worse than you are. :-) Just use the vantage point as a place where you can both look further, :-) together. And don't get carried away and roll off. If you do roll off, at least be chivalrous and land first. :-) Now :-) if only I could train it to migrate up to the bald spot.... A pet hamster is just about the right size to cover that bald spot, Gene. No, on second thought maybe a pet German Shepard? A camel? :-) This is net.singles. My favorite single position is on my stomach :-) with the pillow over my head. My next favorite is under a tree :-) in a meadow somewhere, or in a nice hammock. This should be :-) accompanied by a tall glass of lemonade and a breeze. Is that :-) what you were asking about? No, no, no! My favorite position is being against the killing of innocent baby seals with nuclear warheads! That is the kind of position he wanted! :-) Beautiful people and jerks & Insecurity :-) --------------------------------------- :-) Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. Eyes are extremely beautiful, in many cases the most beautiful part of any person. Someone (and I can't find the quote, dammit) once said that the eyes were the keyhole to the soul. I don't normally suggest falling in love looking through keyholes, but you can learn a lot about a person just by looking at their eyes if you know what you are looking for. :-) and a sunset doesn't do much good when you're alone :-) and horny on a Friday night. Sunsets can do a lot more than you think, Gene. A beautiful sunset is one of the best works that your can create for you. It may not solve your frustrations, but it CAN make you forget them for a while. :-) But the most important reason has to do with the simple fact that there :-) are very few unnatractive people. EVERYONE is attractive to some :-) degree or another. TRUE! TRUE! TRUE! TRUE! TRUE! Why can't people understand this? If there is one phrase I get tired of hearing, it is 'I'm not very pretty' in all its varied glory (substitute sexy, smart, cute, almost any adjective). BULLSHIT! You may not be the Prettiest (by definition, there can only be ONE of those), but by you are YOU, and you are the best you there is in the world, and by that is good enough for me. Stop worrying about what you aren't, start enjoying what you ARE! :-) On the other hand, beauty can be a curse. I know many very intelligent :-) and beautiful women who are often dismissed as just another "dumb" :-) blonde. I can think of half a dozen extremely beautiful women from my old high school that I found out after the fact never went out on a single date in school. A real pity, because they were extremely wonderful people who sat at home for four years because they were so pretty that everyone was scared of them. Myself included (may I NEVER fall into that trap again). What is worse, they had a lot going for them other than their looks that most people never got a chance to see because they weren't cheerleaders or loud or noticibly active at school. They were just bright, and pretty, and ignored. What a shame. :-) I prefer women who use little or no makeup, who wear simple styles. A :-) man or woman who is sure of himself/herself is more attractive than :-) an insecure someone coiffed and arrayed in the latest fashions. Makeup should be used to accentuate the positive features and to minimize the less than perfect. It can NOT be used to create things that aren't there. The best makeup job is one that isn't noticed, because the best makeup job looks natural. :-) The rest of you :-) --------------- :-) Love each other. We're all we've got. One basic rule of thumb -- :-) don't expect more from anyone else than you'd expect of yourself. And :-) don't hassle them if they fall occasionally short of your :-) expectations. Instead, reach down from your lofty perch and offer your :-) hand. Even more important. Love youself. Once you do that you can start loving each other easier and more completely. And you will find that they will love you back even more. Love is one of the few things in life you can give away as quickly and completely as you can and never run out (smiles are another!( Chuq -- From a hunting lodge for rich weirdos: Chuq Von Rospach {amd,fortune,hplabs,ihnp4}!nsc!chuqui (408) 733-2600 x242 I'm here... There's nothing to worry about.