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From: chabot@amber.DEC (Lisa Chabot)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: airheads
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Date: Thu, 5-Jul-84 10:05:45 EDT
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Posted: Thu Jul  5 10:05:45 1984
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Jeff Sargent proposed an interesting theory:
> I have a theory that men of my generation (born in the 50's and early 60's),
> due to early conditioning, really don't want BEAUTIFUL women; rather, they
> want CUTE women. ...  I suspect that men around my age (29 on 06/22), no
> matter how liberated they may claim to be, still carry the image that the
> ideal woman is cute and not too intelligent -- i.e. that the woman will still
> be a little girl when she's 40, so the man can be the strong one in the
> family. Many men probably feel that if a woman is a strong person in her own
> right, she will be a threat; ...

and then he cites a personal example:

> ...  Sometimes I think I ought to find the ditziest frosh or sophomore
> girl on campus and date her just to get this early conditioning out of my
> system. 

My theory is that this just might not have the desired effect: in getting
to know the dizzy undergraduate, you might find that she has unexpected depths
(but on the other hand--watch out for that large age difference).  Women are
not ignorant of the general expectations of what makes an attractive woman,
and try to meet it.  For some, this means living down to it--trying to not
appear serious, not talking shop, cultivating a variety of feminine camoflages.
Appearing independent may turn away that prospective steady who wants to be
the Strong One--of course, that fish is better left to swim away, but WHO
wants to be lonely?  The threat of loneliness effects all of us.

So, the dizzy underclasswoman may actually be a human being (many people are).

Of course, some of us are inherently silly.  I've been told that I can get away
with it only because I'm not a man--but then I'm not one to listen to that. 

	L S Chabot

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