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From: judy@ut-ngp.UUCP (Judith O. Ashworth)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: stop already!
Message-ID: <732@ut-ngp.UUCP>
Date: Tue, 10-Jul-84 17:13:28 EDT
Article-I.D.: ut-ngp.732
Posted: Tue Jul 10 17:13:28 1984
Date-Received: Thu, 12-Jul-84 01:24:13 EDT
Organization: Comp. Center, Univ. of Texas at Austin
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Wow! I stay away from the net for a week and net.singles goes bonkers!
I have refrained from reading the postings conserning homosexuality for the
following reasons:

1) It doesn't belong on net.singles. Remember the big to-do about religious
   discussions here? Well the same argument applies to this.

2) I have no desire to dignify the arguments of those who feel it necessary
   to condemn that segment of the population -  for whatever reason - by 
   reading them.

3) I have no reason to read articles that justify this very personal choice,
   since it is not a choice I could or would ever make and I'm not the least
   bit interested in why someone else would choose this path. I simply accept
   that they do. They certainly don't need to justify themselves to ME.

4) If I WERE interested in this subject I would read net.MOTSS, which I don't.

  However, since I have been unable to avoid all such references and because
I wish to sooth the bruised feelings of some of the men out on the net, I
shall enter my support.
  It is my personal belief that people respond with varying degrees of 
openness in ANY relationship. It is all a matter of getting through the
manure. With some, the manure is deeper than with others, and sometimes
*I* lack the right shovel (what an analogy THAT turned out to be!). However,
although I sometimes fail terribly in my attempt to reach a person, I none the
less feel that EVERYONE is capable of feeling/caring/hurting and being hurt.
  I PREFER the company and friendship of MEN over that of women. Why?
I guess it's because I'm uncomfortable with the feeling of competition most
single women project.(Some MARRIED ones, too!) It really makes me feel
weird when a women is so insecure that if I wear a white skirt to dinner -
she has to wear a white skirt (this has actually happened!), or she compares her
weight, tan, bust, even knowledge to mine! (Please note that I make a 
distinction between intelligence and knowledge that many people do not.) I
especially find one-upmanship distasteful.
  I just can't feel close to someone from whom I get vibs of envy/jealousy. And 
it's not that I'm some beauty that would inspire such feelings (oh, men find me
attactive, I've got a good figure -  but a big nose!). Anyway, *I* have found 
most men quite capable of being sensitive, kind, warm. Few men though, are 
really in touch with their feelings, some are even scared by them. It's not 
their fault; society has pushed roles on men as much as on women, maybe more, 
but men's liberation has progressed at a much slower pace. I believe this is
why some men have no trouble relating to a female friend, but the moment that
sex is introduced to the situation, they have trouble coping. It's almost
like Dr.Jekyll and Mr. Hyde! Perhaps the same could be said about women?



It's not chauvinistic to be chivalrous!
Judy (ut-ngp!judy)