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From: chuqui@nsc.UUCP (Chuq Von Rospach)
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Subject: Re: Pedestalization digression
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Date: Wed, 11-Jul-84 22:10:13 EDT
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>>>=Dyer, >>=Sargent, > = Dunn

>>I would
>>be interested in the response from married readers of this group.
>
>OK, you asked for it:  Look, a bad marriage can be pretty rough; no
>question about it.  But a good one is unbelievably great.  You can't be
>"committed to love...whether one felt like it or not..."  Either you love
>or you don't.  You CAN'T love against your will, and if you pretend to do
>so, you're only lying.  Problems can be solved if you want to solve them.
>Fear of marriage?  Fear of the unknown, I say - but don't get me wrong;
>xenophobia is mostly a healthy reaction; leads to survival.
>Let me phrase a different question, and then answer it:  Can anyone imagine
>anything worse than an absolutely failed marriage?  Yes: Never experiencing
>even a minute of a successful one.

I can't agree with Dick more! As someone who probably has more right to say
bad things about marriage than anyone else on the group all I will say is
that marriage happens to be a great institution. I had some REALLY good
times while I was married that I would have missed out on otherwise. I have
every intention of getting married again (assuming I meet the right person
of course-- I'm now worried about that, though) because there is a level of
sharing and intimacy available in marriage that can't be found elsewhere.
If I was in the same situation as I was, would I get married again?
Probably not, because it wasn't right for either of us. But I'm not running
around wishing it never happened because there were times when it WAS
wonderful. I wouldn't have missed those times for anything.

chuq (and you can quote me, Matt)

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I don't mind you coming here and wasting all my time. Because when you're
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