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From: gds@mit-eddie.UUCP (Greg Skinner)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: pedestalization
Message-ID: <2373@mit-eddie.UUCP>
Date: Sat, 14-Jul-84 01:14:45 EDT
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Posted: Sat Jul 14 01:14:45 1984
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pucc-h:aeq (just what does that stand for anyhow?):
> 1.  Is there such a thing as an "undamaged" person, i.e. one who made it
>     through childhood without getting mangled?
> 2.  If so, could such a person possibly learn to understand and love one who
>     has been as sick as I, and who is still so far from full recovery?

In answer to (1), just what is "undamaged"?  Everyone, I imagine, has
something in their childhood which they aren't so proud of, or in other
words, everyone has a skeleton in their closet.  Some people are able to
continue on without having the past haunt them, some people are able to
forget that the past ever happened, some people cover up for their pasts
by creating new identities for themselves, etc., etc.  

In answer to (2), for one, you don't sound so sick to me -- I haven't
heard anything from you which is so different than everyone else, except
that you have used Christianity in your arguments where others have not.
Let me offer some advice.  No one likes a luser (no offense, Jeff, but
if you constantly degrade yourself by calling yourself "sick" people
will start to think bad things about you which aren't really true).
Secondly, didn't you say you had a lady friend?  Surely *she* must see
something in you that she likes, or she wouldn't hang around you.
Lastly, I guess, from reading your articles elsewhere, I would say,
offhand, you're a pretty decent guy, and if you are having trouble
finding an SO perhaps you haven't found THE SO yet, so don't fret.  Me,
I haven't found my SO yet, but I try not to worry about it (not so easy
on a Friday night when I'm feeling lonely and there's nothing around but
my terminal and the TV to keep me company) but I don't think that just
because I don't have an SO yet that I'm unworthy of one.

Hope that helps.
-- 
Those who know me have no need for my name.

Greg Skinner (gregbo)
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