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From: gds@mit-eddie.UUCP (Greg Skinner)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: THE kiss of death (insecure women)
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Date: Sat, 14-Jul-84 12:25:33 EDT
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Posted: Sat Jul 14 12:25:33 1984
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> seismo!keith:
> 	Just a kinda throw away: I've seen relationships where jerks got 
> "further" (how do you wish to define further) because they were such
> insensitive creeps that they kept pushing until the SO gave in.  Note: This
> includes cases with both male and female SOs.  Also note, this implies an 
> SO with at least some degree of insecurity.  

I don't know if this implies insecurity (perhaps just a tendency to give
in under pressure) but I have heard of this.

> 	I think that the quality of the relationship comes into question 
> here; do you want a casual SO or do you want a quality happening?  The
> mature, caring (etc. etc. ad nauseum) people that I know tend NOT to have
> numerous relationships. They tend to prefer their own company to the
> company of "jerks".  Therefore, to the casual observer, they may appear to 
> be unwanted/undesirable.  

Did it ever occur to you that those who don't have numerous
relationships are those who don't want to get hurt, or are too shy to
express their feelings?

> 	Final note; don't know if this applies here, but it seems like a lot
> of people (mostly male) that I know, while paying a great deal of lip service
> to the ideal of a genuine, loving partnership (damn that Alan Alda) feel the 
> need to hang a few scalps on their belts; and what's more, to have their 
> friends (again, mostly male) see them as someone who can not only assemble
> a Sears lawnmower but nail the wandering SO.  Perhaps a "normal" little part
> of proving oneself?  Certainly for men, and I think to an increasing extent
> for women.

It seems to me, in today's society, pressure is put upon men to be
"experienced" with women, and that women should be constantly on the
prowl for a man.  (I don't agree with the preceding statement, but if
you watch TV, movies, etc., this sort of behavior is being portrayed.)
Whatever happened to the good old days?
-- 
Those who know me have no need for my name.

Greg Skinner (gregbo)
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