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From: julian@deepthot.UUCP (Julian Davies)
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Subject: Re: Looking at the opposite sex in different ways
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Date: Sat, 14-Jul-84 16:51:28 EDT
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Posted: Sat Jul 14 16:51:28 1984
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I think that making a sharp distinction between "lust" and "love"
is too simple to fit life.  There are more dimensions or polarities
than just those two, in 'attractions', and i view the space of
possibilities as a multi-dimensional continuum.  Also, the state of my
feelings with respect to any particular person moves around quite a
bit in that 'space' too.  E.g., I have found it very difficult to
deal with cases of feeling very attracted to a person at one time,
with the sentiment returned, and then a few days later feeling much
less enthusiastic, for no very obvious reason.  Of course, sometimes
the reason is identifiable--I may have met someone else in the mean
time.
  But I am suspicious of a lust/love one-or-the-other point of view,
because it seems to me that many problems in life are contributed to
by people who insist on making black/white good/evil distinctions.
I do not subscribe to the view that sexual or related feelings are
'bad' (though of course they can be expressed inappropriately).
		Julian Davies
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