Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site decwrl.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!mgnetp!ihnp4!zehntel!dual!decwrl!dec-rhea!dec-tonto!alanurm From: alanurm@tonto.DEC (And a road of my own....) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: SOME THOUGHTS Message-ID: <2643@decwrl.UUCP> Date: Tue, 17-Jul-84 14:10:28 EDT Article-I.D.: decwrl.2643 Posted: Tue Jul 17 14:10:28 1984 Date-Received: Wed, 18-Jul-84 03:25:15 EDT Sender: daemon@decwrl.UUCP Organization: DEC Engineering Network Lines: 47 This is getting off the subject a bit......but, Last week I was coming back home (to New Hampshire) from NYC and I was rushing to try and catch the shuttle van at the terminal (Logan Airport) and I became aware of a dark-haired female standing within a group of people staring at me. How did I know she was looking at me? Well, her head was turning to track my progress past her and when I stopped to look back at her more closely, the head movement stopped and she just stared at me! I continued on my way after a bit and every time I glanced back, she was still watching me. I wish now that I had gone back and spoken to her, but, I was hot and tired, it having taken me 6 hours to get from Wall Street in NYC to Logan due to the 4th of July rush. The point? I sincerely believe that there are persons (of both sexes) that are immediately attracted to you and vice versa and that when you see them, you should if at all possible talk to them and see if there is a lifestyle match as well. Why? Well, it is nice in these days of pop pyschology to talk about the search for meaningful relationships, your own space, and so on, ad nauseum but, it all comes down to this: (in my opinion) If the chemistry, the basic physical attraction, the desire to be close to and around someone isn't there, forget it. And by basic physical attraction, I do NOT mean that it has to be sexual in nature. I have met men that I felt that attraction to so strongly that I had to just practically hug them to relieve the intensity of the feeling. I didn't have ANY desire to have sex with them (I couldn't even imagine it), but I just wanted to be around them. As for with women, INCREDIBLE. When that initial base attraction is there, it makes everything so easy. A bit of digression.... I speculate about Trish's observation about men. If she just went out with men that she did feel intensely attracted to perhaps, maybe, she would have been more tolerant of them. After all, we all put on certain facades to satisfy society's restraints and it is easy for someone that doesn't know us to to think that the masks we wear are all there is to us. Another bit of speculation....There is a beauty that we are conditioned to see. And then there is a beauty that comes from within. Each and every one of us has that beauty within us and somewhere there is at least one person that can bring that beauty out of us. That feeling when someone stirs something deep within you and you are able to strike a responsive chord with them is one of the best this life has to offer. I intend to be satisfied with nothing less. Len Alanurm ....decvax!decwrl!rhea!tonto!alanurm @DEC - CSS - NSG New Hampshire