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From: rdr@ncsu.UUCP (druid)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: small-talk/getting to know MOTOS
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Date: Wed, 18-Jul-84 18:16:25 EDT
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Posted: Wed Jul 18 18:16:25 1984
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>From Jeff:  (are you the same D.H. who used to go to Purdue?)
	Certainly.  i thought i gave a good clue by suggesting that
	a play (acting) was a good place to meet others.  Besides, how
	many other Druids do you know?

>-- Jeff Sargent "...got to find my corner of the sky."
>The only thing to do, of course, is to get to know the particular young woman
>in question; but how do I approach her without looking like an adolescent?
>It seems that the only thing I can do is to be as clumsily honest as I am in
>this group and tell her that she did make a significant impression and that I
>want, or even need, to get to know her (if for no other reason than to end the
>suspense, though I probably shouldn't say that to her).  Any other ideas?

Personally, i don't like the implications the phrase 'small talk', but really
what that is, is a way of showing interest in a person, and finding out more
about them.  It doesn't have to consist of meaningless and empty talk.  It
should consist of each one asking the other questions about themselves.  I
do not have an aggressive or flamboyant personality, so i do not tend to
attract women at first sight or meeting.  However, if i am interested in
someone, then i will try to find out more about them.  This is usually best
done by asking them.  I find that if they are at all interested in return,
then they will ask about me as well.  And this doesn't have to mean interest
as in 'more-than-friends'.  I have found that i tend to do much better
in a one-on-one situation where i can get to know someone (and vice-versa)
without interference (shades of insecurity perhaps??).  In any event, find
out about her first, and see if any interest is shown in return.  And then
if you are still interested, try inviting her to something non-threatening,
such as a walk through the park, buy her a coke, take her to a movie or
concert or somewhere with a lot of people, play tennis or any other sport
with her.
Your biggest hangup right now is your image of yourself (or so it seems to
me).  Believe me Jeff, you have a lot more going for you than you
give yourself credit for.  There is no reason why MOTOS won't like you
as well if you just give them the chance.

Trish's 12th grudge  (sounds like the commandments :-)
I will give up saying that i don't (or can't) understand women on the
day that i find one (count 'em, just ONE :-) that i can understand.

> From: rdr@ncsu.UUCP (driud) (Alas, the Druid who can't spell)
			 ^^
have fun all... dave hesselberth   the Druid of NC   decvax!mcnc!ncsu!rdr
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