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From: moiram@tektronix.UUCP (Moira Mallison )
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: To Breed or Not to Breed - Part IV
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Date: Wed, 25-Jul-84 19:26:38 EDT
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Posted: Wed Jul 25 19:26:38 1984
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>>Now to the not breeding question:  Suppose that a man and woman have a 
>>relationship such that they occasionally make love, and a pregnancy results
>>from one of these occasions.  The woman is ABSOLUTELY CLEAR about her 
>>decision to have an abortion.  Does she tell the father or not? 

> A man should be involved in the decision on the abortion to the extent that
> he was involved in the relationship. If the relationship is casual, and
> there is no significant committments between them then he shouldn't have
> much (if any) decision on the abortion. If there IS a committment in the
> relationship (I think the differentiation is whether or not they're
> partners or simply bedmates...) then he should be involved. 

I think you are not addressing the issue, Chuq.  Are you equating commitment
to the relationship in general with commitment to a sexual relationship?  I 
am not.  Unless the sexual relationship is truly occasional, the question 
doesn't even make sense:  after an abortion a woman is advised against inter-
course for a period of a few weeks (risk of infection) and I would find that
hard to explain in a partnership  (a month-long headache? :-]).

The kind of relationship I was describing (maybe not too well) is a close
friendship that every now and then strays into the sexual realm, as an 
extension of warm, caring feelings.  Maybe the question still doesn't make
sense... :-].

		Moira Mallison
		tektronix!moiram