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From: aeq@pucc-h (Jeff Sargent)
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Subject: Re: small-talk/getting to know MOTOS
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Date: Thu, 26-Jul-84 23:05:31 EDT
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From Dave Hesselberth:

> ....how many other Druids do you know?

One other [he directed Civic Theatre's spring production; he also teaches
junior high in West Lafayette; would you trust your kids to this man? :-)]

Your general comments were appropriate.  The thing is:	There already are
numerous MOTOS's who LIKE me.  It is hard, however, to quash the hope that
one of them will WANT me; perhaps the fact that I, like many males (so I
gather), have a very ambivalent attitude toward the idea of a "steady"
relationship, may make it easier.  The kicker with having an SO is that you
also have to BE an SO, which requires a great commitment of time, energy,
devotion...in sum, giving of yourself.	It sounds as though one had better
have numerous other good friends to run to when the stresses of having an SO
become too great.  (Alas, my Christian experience has not yet removed my
all-pervading pessimism from my nature.)  It is this fear -- that I would be
hurt, rather than helped, by an SO-ship, and that I could not hold up my end
of such a relationship (not to mention a difficult-to-eradicate streak of
pure selfishness that bloody doesn't want to give me or anything of mine to
anyone) -- that is now keeping me from making many efforts to get to know
more women, lest one of them become interested in more than friendship.
Yes, I know, I would have a say in deciding whether to let an SO-ship
develop; I'm just a little afraid that, if a woman did become interested, and
she was at all attractive, I might react "FINALLY!" and plunge into an
SO-ship, and then realize that I made a terrible mistake.  It's a lot harder
to debug a relationship than a program.  It's probably easier to throw out
a relationship than a program (given the presence of OS/360 descendants 20
years later), but not easy on an absolute scale.

In other words, I've made some progress:  I now (I think) believe that I could
get an SO -- and I'm afraid I could.

Comments on this new wrinkle?

-- 
-- Jeff Sargent
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Onward to glory -- or at least to Tucumcari.