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From: ward@hao.UUCP (Mike Ward)
Newsgroups: net.kids
Subject: Re: On raising children
Message-ID: <1124@hao.UUCP>
Date: Mon, 27-Aug-84 16:52:53 EDT
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Posted: Mon Aug 27 16:52:53 1984
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I don't see that demanding a certain standard of behavior is
the equivalent of expressing ownership of a child.  If a child
wishes to be treated as an adult, then he/she should not complain
when adult standards are demanded.  If a freind came to visit me
and demanded that I allow her to bring anybody into my home to
share her bed, she would very quickly be neither visitor nor
freind.  When my child does the same, she will be told in no
uncertain terms that she (hypothetical, there is not she (yet))
is demanding what is not hers to demand.  (Of course, if I like
the guy, I expect it would be another story).

While you don't own your children, you do own your home, and
need not be subject to anquish there by those who (presumably) love
you. 

-- 
Michael Ward, NCAR/SCD
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