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From: lute@abnjh.UUCP (J. Collymore)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Losing MOTOS Friends to Marriage
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Date: Thu, 23-Aug-84 15:32:00 EDT
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Posted: Thu Aug 23 15:32:00 1984
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Since I turned 23 I have experienced an unusual phenomenon.  

Did you ever notice that when you have a MOTOS friend that gets married they
decrease their contacts (phone, letters) with you, and by so doing they
discourage you from keeping in contact?  I find this particularly discomforting
since over the years the majority of my close friends are women.  Now this
can be attributable to either:

1) - Jealous/Insecure spouse.
2) - MOTOS friend getting totally immersed in the marriage to the exclusion
     of even those old reliable friends.

Now not ALL my married friends get this way, but it does seem to be the norm.
For those of you who are, or have been married, do you see other reasons than
the 2 above that explain this behavior?  Have you done this yourself?
Please post reponses to this newsgroup.  Thanks.


					Jim Collymore

p.s.  I realize this behavior also occurs in dating relationships, but since
      relationships come and go, this loss of the friend is more of a variable
      thing.  When it occurs due to a marriage it seems to be more permanent.