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From: edhall@randvax.UUCP (Ed Hall)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: RE: Re: External appearances
Message-ID: <1974@randvax.UUCP>
Date: Sun, 9-Sep-84 08:41:02 EDT
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Posted: Sun Sep  9 08:41:02 1984
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] From edhall@randvax.UUCP (Ed Hall)  Posted: Mon Sep  3 14:08:24 1984
] > It doesn't make much of a difference, does it?  You have to deal on a
] > day-to-day basis with people who will be prejudiced toward attractive
] > people, and it makes no difference [...]
]
] Look Ed, like it or not, there *are* people who want to know "why" and to
] them, it *does* make a difference.

Maybe I'm getting cynical in my old age, but I don't worry much over
things that I either can't change or which don't make much difference
anyway. (See my next comment.)

] > Personally, I'm not at all happy with this state of affairs.  But, sadly,
] > I'll either have to live with it, or become a hermit.
]
] In my opinion, *this* is sad.  I also was unhappy about this "state of
] affairs" so I decided *not* go along with it.  A rebel?  Naw, it's just
] that if something makes me unhappy, I deal with it rather than let it
] keep bothering me.  If we only are here once, doesn't it make sence to
] keep yourself as happy (content) as possible?  My close friends are like
] me in that they put very little emphasis on appearance.
]                    .  .  .  .
]                                                          Jeff Forys

I deal with it by simply not letting it bother me.  I maintain my appearance
because it suits my professional ends, and because *it_makes_me_happy_to_
do_so*.  I don't deal with the issue by avoiding it.  My friends put little
emphasis on appearance in judging other people (as do I), though they all
take reasonable care of their appearance.  Why?  Because first impressions
are important.  Because appearance has subtle effects on mood.  Because it
is part of the culture we live in.  Because, like it or not, it helps us
achieve goals which are more important than being true to the ideal of
``inner beauty is all that's important''.  When I meet someone on a
professional basis, I want them to (1) respect me, and (2) be comfortable
with me.  So I neither under-dress nor over-dress in the same way that I
neither ``talk down'' to them nor ``talk up'' to them.  And in a looser
sense I maintain this attitude on social occasions as well.

Most of the people I have to deal with and get along with aren't friends,
but people I only see occasionally, or under impersonal conditions.  Jeff
Forys might be in a different situation, and so may be able to look the                  I would
same at work as on weekends.  I have other needs, and other ambitions.

		-Ed Hall
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