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From: chuqui@nsc.UUCP (Zonker T. Chuqui)
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Subject: Re: Confused by ambiguous signals
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Date: Sat, 27-Oct-84 21:58:46 EST
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> Very well.  I called her two days later and asked her out to dinner for a
> couple of days later and she told me the she had a meeting to go to that
> night.  She sounded quite a bit different than she had during that lunch.
> Her sentences were short and guarded; she wasn't volunteering much, nor
> supporting the conversation.  I asked her if she still wanted to get
> together sometime.  She responded "yes" (without hesitation) so I asked her
> when would be a good time.

> As you may have guessed, she should have been back from vacation for a
> couple of weeks now and has either not called or has called but left no
> message on the machine.

Lot's of possibilities spring to mind-- her crispness on the phone may
simply have been because she doesn't feel comfortable talking on the phone.
She could have been on the way out the door, had a bad day at the office,
or she might have had company that she wanted to get back to. The fact that
she doesn't like phone machines increases the chance that she'll hang up
and wait to catch you live instead. Or she may simply have let it slip her
mind. 

Now comes the first rule of Chuqui: never make assumptions based on your
own insecurities. If she doesn't really want to go out with you, she'll let
you know. Don't make that decision for her.


-- 
From the Department of Bistromatics:                   Chuq Von Rospach
{cbosgd,decwrl,fortune,hplabs,ihnp4,seismo}!nsc!chuqui  nsc!chuqui@decwrl.ARPA

  I'd know those eyes from a million years away....