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From: afo@pucc-h (Flidais )
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Confused by ambiguous signals
Message-ID: <1420@pucc-h>
Date: Sun, 28-Oct-84 17:57:59 EST
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Posted: Sun Oct 28 17:57:59 1984
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(muscovy ducks!)

Oh dear, I hate to break anyone's bubble, but I think that the young lady in
question might be using the 'kafka-esque' approach to refusing a date.	
It basically goes like this:  Keep being not available until the you man in
question takes the hint. (for more on this, check out the Miss Manners 
ettiquette guide)  For some reason, people seem to think this is nicer than
actually coming out and saying 'no, I don't want to go out on a date with you'.

The people who do this are also trying to save themselves from any anger, real
or perceived, that they feel might be directed toward them from the refusee.
It's like hoping that the other person will get interested in something else,
and the matter that you won't go out on a date with them will be quietly 
forgotten.


It's one of those passive nasties that I wish would go away.
Laurie Sefton
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"Lifemate! Friend of my body and my soul! I will be with you forever!"