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From: chuqui@nsc.UUCP (Zonker T. Chuqui)
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Subject: Re: Confused by ambiguous signals
Message-ID: <1782@nsc.UUCP>
Date: Mon, 29-Oct-84 17:07:43 EST
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Posted: Mon Oct 29 17:07:43 1984
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In article <479@astrovax.UUCP> rat@astrovax.UUCP (Stephen J. Ratcliff) writes:
>> Now comes the first rule of Chuqui: never make assumptions based on your
>> own insecurities. If she doesn't really want to go out with you, she'll let
>> you know...
>
>Ah, but Chuqui, *how* will she let him know?  Perhaps by actions 
>whose meaning she considers perfectly clear, but which could be 
>interpreted by him in an entirely different way.  In other words: 
>by ambiguous signals...

Well, I'm a firm believer in ignoring ambiguous signals when it is to my
advantage. If I want to go out with someone and she doesn't want to go out
with me, I'd much rather be told 'thanks, but no thanks' than to have them
hint around and wait for me to change my mind. To me, it is a matter of
honesty... I'm not going to be crushed if someone doesn't want to go out
with me, it has happened before, and it might happen again someday and it
isn't the end of the world. I've never really understood why some people do
things 'for your own good' when they don't know you well enough to
understand whether or not it IS good for you...
-- 
From the Department of Bistromatics:                   Chuq Von Rospach
{cbosgd,decwrl,fortune,hplabs,ihnp4,seismo}!nsc!chuqui  nsc!chuqui@decwrl.ARPA

  I'd know those eyes from a million years away....