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From: hollombe@ttidcc.UUCP (Jerry Hollombe)
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Subject: ambiguous behavior
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Date: Thu, 1-Nov-84 13:41:54 EST
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While acquiring my master's in psychology I stumbled on to what I consider
to be one of the GREAT TRUTHS of the universe:

	A large proportion of all the pain in the world is caused by the
	belief in telepathy.

This applies not only to the "no means yes" syndrome but also  to  all  the
situations  where  one person thinks the other should "just know" what they
want, think, or are feeling.  I've seen a number of relationships break  up
because of this attitude, including one or two of my own.

From another angle, the "no means yes" behavior has the effect of screening
out  the  caring and sensitive people who assume that no means no and don't
want  to  make  a  nuisance  of  themselves.   This  means  that  only  the
persistent,  insensitive,  boors  are  the ones who ultimately get through.
Perhaps this has some long-term evolutionary advantage in terms of  passing
on  aggressive  genes.  In my opinion, however, those for whom no means yes
deserve each other.


Jerry Hollombe
(The Polymath)
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Jerry Hollombe (The Polymath)
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