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From: edhall@randvax.UUCP (Ed Hall)
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Subject: Re: Kate Hepburn on sex life of today's college students
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Date: Fri, 2-Nov-84 16:16:14 EST
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Are college students really having sex to the exclusion of getting to know
each other?

> A few weeks back, U.S. News & World Report had an interview with some
> psychologist or sociologist type in which she regretted that courtship in
> the modern day becomes considerably, if not largely, sexual early, whereas
> in past years (e.g. Victorian), courtship was the time when people really
> shared their feelings, hopes, dreams, goals, etc.  The quick progression to
> sex, according to the interviewee (and my dim memory), mucks up the
> relationship since much time together is spent, not communicating those things
> which would be important to any future life together, but just in having sex.
>  . . . .
> -- Jeff Sargent

I don't know about you, but I'd have a bit of trouble having sex so often
that I had no oppertunity to get to know my partner better.  Sex has become
part of the getting-to-know process, not a replacement for it.  In fact,
after sex is often the best time to discuss those more intimate emotional
matters...  I suspect that this psychologist has some other reason for
her views.

		-Ed