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From: afo@pucc-k (Flidais)
Newsgroups: net.singles,net.social
Subject: Meeting the Parents
Message-ID: <614@pucc-k>
Date: Wed, 21-Nov-84 20:56:35 EST
Article-I.D.: pucc-k.614
Posted: Wed Nov 21 20:56:35 1984
Date-Received: Sun, 25-Nov-84 03:28:53 EST
Organization: Necromancers Local #1032
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(I'll have a prepared statement for you in the morning)

Comes a time in everyone's life when they have to face the dread
duty of either:

	1.  Introducing their current SO to the parentals, 

	..or..

	2.  Being introduced to the SO's parentals.



These days, it seems as this can be especially nerve-wracking, as,
when you were in high school (so many years ago), at least you were
in the same general vicinity as the SO.  So, if things didn't work
out, you could at least beat a hasty retreat to the local whatever.

However, these days, now only is it likely that you are going to be
1,000 miles down the road from your parents, it is quite likely that
your SO is going to be a few miles down the road from you
(experience talking, here).  So, you might spend a few months trying
to describe your SO to your mother, while trying to convince her
that you are *not* going out with the Hillside Strangler.  *And*
trying to convince your family that things can work out when you're
three time zones different.

Now, here comes the hard part.  The actual meeting of SO and
parentals.  Right after you have digested the last of your stomach,
your SO gets off the plane (out of the car with you, whatever), and
you look with fear into your parent's eyes.  *sigh*  Well, your
family is now convinced that you haven't dropped off the deepend
after all.  Now the light conversation starts, and the inevitable
(yes, sooner or later, someone will blab it out) 'so, what *are*
your future plans'.  ohboy.....

Now, by this time you and your SO have decided that you aren't quite
ready for happy wedlock-hood, but that won't deter you from sharing
the living quarters at this time.....

Now, how exactly would you (did you) handle this sort of situation?
Obviously, this can cause a world-class arguement amongst the
family, especially when parentals are into the notion that only 'bad
girls (yes! double standard!)' 'live in sin'.  Is there a calm, and
rational way of discussing such matters, or do you just send a
postcard with your new address after you have moved in (not too
practical if the move is 2000 miles away)

Answers, anyone?



-- 
Laurie Sefton
{harpo,ihnp4,allegra,decvax}!pur-ee!pucc-h!afo
I am the sword, the spear, the arrow.  You are the flower, the tree,
the vine!  Never will I, or anyone force you to be other than what
you are -Never Again!