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From: aeq@pucc-h (Jeff Sargent)
Newsgroups: net.singles,net.social
Subject: Re: Meeting the Parents
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Date: Wed, 28-Nov-84 00:52:08 EST
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Posted: Wed Nov 28 00:52:08 1984
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From Laurie Sefton (pucc-k:afo):

> Now, by this time you and your SO have decided that you aren't quite
> ready for happy wedlock-hood, but that won't deter you from sharing
> the living quarters at this time.....

Admittedly I haven't personal experience to back this up, but have you
considered *residing* together, as distinct from the usual sense of
"living together"?  It occurs to me that if you and your SO could
successfully deal with the stresses of sharing a residence, for an
extended period, *without* using sex to paper over disagreements, then
your friendship would be so solid that you would greatly increase your
chances of a successful marriage, should you decide to exercise that option.
Another way to look at it is: one thing at a time.  Work out the balances
of plain vanilla daily life first; when they are running reasonably
swimmingly, *then* start working on the adjustments of sex.  Don't try
to do everything at once.

The obvious difficulties in this arise from this not being the best of all
possible worlds: a) the temptation to go ahead with sex would be there, and
would probably be very strong; b) even if you didn't give in to that
temptation, you'd have a tough time convincing outsiders of your celibacy
(particularly parents, I suppose).  But the idea still seems to me to have
some wisdom in it.  Perhaps you could try it, and let the net know how it
works out?

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-- Jeff Sargent
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