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From: agz@pucc-k (Andrew Banta)
Newsgroups: net.singles,net.social
Subject: Re: Meeting the Parents
Message-ID: <627@pucc-k>
Date: Tue, 27-Nov-84 01:28:39 EST
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Posted: Tue Nov 27 01:28:39 1984
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Organization: Dept. of  Mental Instability, Purdue University
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While I have no personal experience in the matter, I think I could
predict my parents reaction with out much difficulty.

First off, a little background:
For a year, I lived with a girl, on a purely non-sexual basis.  this was
understood from the start, and we both repsected each other's privacy.
We slept in separate rooms, but had no problem with discussions on
policy within the apartment, etc, and occasionally had dinner together.
Now, my parents, while not overly thrilled with the idea ("How do WE
know nothing is going on?"), accepted it without much problem.  the only
difference I really noticed was that, as opposed to other years and
other roommates, they continually asked "How are things going with you
two?"  The answer was always the same, things were fine.  She got
married at the end of that year, and moved out.

Now, while my parents claim to be rather "old-fashioned", I get the
feeling that they actually have pretty liberal feelings toward this.  I
think that if I informed them that I had intentions of having a girl
move in with me (*I* would NEVER give up my apartment :-), they would
show "parental concern" about the amount of work I get done, and such
things as potential children (is that coining a phrase?), but would
eventually see that there was no great harm (if there was great harm,
they would inform me).  I don't think that they would "disown" me for
any real reason, regardless of who the girl was.  Now, concerning my
brothers and sisters, this attitude would change.  I know for a fact
that they would not be at all happy with the prospect of my sister
(older that I am) moving in with a guy, but that is they way they have
always worked.  Each child in my family was treated differently: not in
an unfair sense, but they were treated differently because my parents
realized that we were each different.

I don't think that I could make a very educated comment on meeting
parents, seeing as it has only happened once in my life, and was not an
unpleasant or terribly memorable experience ...


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Andy Banta			{decvax!allegra!ihnp4}!pur-ee!pucc-k!agz
Dept. of Mental Instability, Purdue University --- "I'm OK, You're a CS Major"
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