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From: sks@mb2c.UUCP (Sam Spitzner)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: any LDR"s out there??? (long distance relationships)
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Date: Wed, 23-Jan-85 09:41:58 EST
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I have had nothing but LDR's for the past two years.  The one that I am
involved with now has been smoking for 6 months, and there is no end in
sight.

As has been stated many times, the key factor is communication.  The
difficult times that I have had in this relationship (and contributed
to the break-up of others) is communication (or lack thereof).  The both
of work, as well as teach ~4 nights a week, and direct a School.  That
means that the time that we can spend with each other is very limited.
We have had to learn the definition of the phrase "Quality time, not
Quantity time."

We don't spend as much time on the phone as others have indicated, but
we make use of "other" types of communication. i.e. letters, and
mental communication, and astral projection.  Above all, the most
important facet of any relationship is honesty both with your Self, and
the other person.  This will allow you to love that person enough to
help them, even when it may hurt them (or you) for the short term, much
like a parent who knows that to take a splinter out of their child's 
finger is going to hurt.  It will work toward the betterment of both in
the end.

				Sam Spitzner