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From: rohn@randvax.UUCP (Laurinda Rohn)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Living in sin?
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Date: Mon, 21-Jan-85 12:45:01 EST
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Posted: Mon Jan 21 12:45:01 1985
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> from Ron Bemis
> 
>               What are the trials and tribulations experienced by
> people living together (unmarried)?

As I see it, there are 2 sorts of "trials" one encounters.  One is
the trial of the relationship, whether it's going to work.  The
other is listening to people who don't approve of your living situ-
ation.  The first is a very constructive trial.  I don't think you
really know someone until you've lived with them.  When you're just
going out with someone, you don't really get an idea of what it's
like to be around them *constantly*.  You get a much better idea of
your compatibility if you live with a person.

For many people, the major worry is what their friends and family
will think of them if they do live with someone without being
married.  I lived with an ex-SO about 3 years ago and am now living
with my current SO.  I've never had any problems with what my friends
think, mainly because they just aren't the sort of people who would
judge me by my living situation.  Family can be a bit stickier.  I
had no problem with my mother when I told her.  As a matter of fact,
her response was, "Oh, thank God.  I thought you were going to tell
me you were getting married."  While she isn't against me getting
married, she doesn't want me to rush into anything, and I don't
want to.  I do have some very religious relatives who frown on the
whole situation, but that's their problem.  If their love for me is
conditional on my living up to their standards of "right", I don't
want it.

Sure, there are always going to be problems, but there are lots of
advantages, too.  Someone around to share happiness with and someone
to support you when you're down.  And, probably the best part, you
have someone to hug, on call, at any hour.  Great stuff.  :-)


					Lauri
					rohn@rand-unix.ARPA
					..decvax!randvax!rohn


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