Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/18/84; site leopard.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!gamma!epsilon!zeta!sabre!leopard!lat From: lat@leopard.UUCP (Laurie) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: any LDR"s out there??? (long distance relationships) Message-ID: <114@leopard.UUCP> Date: Thu, 24-Jan-85 11:49:54 EST Article-I.D.: leopard.114 Posted: Thu Jan 24 11:49:54 1985 Date-Received: Fri, 25-Jan-85 07:55:00 EST References: <145@ihdev.UUCP> <2240@nsc.UUCP> gymble.42 <302@mb2c.UUCP> Organization: Bell Communications Research, NVC, 331 Newman Springs Road, Red Bank, NJ 07701 Lines: 35 With all the talk about LDR's and LDSO's (thanks Scott) and mind-reading and expectations, I would like to throw this out to the net. A good friend of mine ran into this situation, and is very confused about the signals going back and forth. For privacy sake, I will keep names and genders out of the explanation (besides, they don't matter -- the situation could be either way). Person X has a relationship with Person Y. Y decides to move to another state for reason. Both X and Y decide they want the relationship to continue. There are no plans about the future at this point (ie, who will move where and when, etc.). Y visits X for 2 days on Y's way to the airport to fly to London; at this point, X and Y have been apart about a month. Y is gone a month. X visits Y 2 weeks after Y gets back from London for about 10 days. (It has now been 2 1/2 months since Y left). Y visits X for 5 days a month later. X spends over $200 to fly to visit Y a month after that. (It's now been ~5 months since Y left). Due to work, school, and financial commitments, X is not able to visit Y for 4 months. During this time, Y is not working, but is not really pressed for money. X and Y have been kinda getting on each other's case about who's going to visit who next. When X asks Y to come visit, Y says "I can't come visit now, I might miss a potential job offer...like this morning (saturday) someone called and we set up a meeting for sometime next week." X thinks this is a poor excuse -- Y has an answering machine with remote pickup and call forwarding, so X thinks Y will not miss anything if Y comes up to visit for a few days. Any opinions about this situation (hope the X's and Y's don't make this too confusing)? -- Laurie {ihnp4, gatech, allegra}!leopard!lat