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Subject: Christians and Sex
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- - - mod.singles- - -          - - - Volume 1, Issue 27 - - -

I am a single Christian who once had sex.  Well, it wasn't the greatest thing
in the world, for one, it was my first time, and I wasn't very experienced.
Secondly, I was nervous.  I didn't really know the girl very well -- we had met
about a month ago at a party but never really talked, or anything.  I wasn't the
kind of person who picked up girls at bars or anything so I wasn't really sure 
of myself.  I wasn't particularly attracted to the girl either.  I guess most
importantly I wanted to go to bed with her because I had never done it before 
and wanted to know what it was like, and didn't want to be a virgin anymore.

Anyhow, it wasn't really all that great for me, or for her.  I wasn't exper-
ienced, so I really didn't know what to do, but I wanted her to think I was
experienced.  At first it was pretty ok, because we were cuddling and hugging
which I enjoy.  But when we got down to THE ACT ITSELF it wasn't fun, or earth
shaking or anything.  Nothing she did really stimulated me, and vice versa.
After a while we just decided to give it up for the night.  I would have set-
tled for just some more cuddling but I think she was upset with me (but maybe
she was just tired or disappointed) and we just went to sleep.  The next morn-
ing I kissed her goodbye on the cheek and left, and I only saw her once in my
life after that.

I don't know if there is a moral to the story or anything.  This shouldn't be
considered evidence or proof that Christian singles *should not* have sex
before they are married, and I'm not saying that I will or won't have sex
again before I'm married, but I learned a couple of things that night.

*	Don't get pressured into having sex if you're not ready.
*	It's better to have sex with someone you really care about, rather
	than just having a fling.
*	Don't worry if it's not so good the first time, there will be other
	times.

I admit I was a little disappointed that the walls didn't shake and that nei-
ther one of us got anything out of that night, but I concluded that I was
sleeping with the wrong person.  I sort of made a promise to myself that the
next person I was going to sleep with would be someone I knew pretty well and
cared about, rather than a fling, whether I was married or not.


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