Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site ttidcc.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxr!mhuxb!mhuxn!mhuxm!mhuxj!houxm!whuxlm!akgua!mcnc!decvax!genrad!teddy!panda!talcott!harvard!seismo!cmcl2!philabs!ttidca!ttidcc!hollombe From: hollombe@ttidcc.UUCP (Jerry Hollombe) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: re: hugs vs bugs Message-ID: <195@ttidcc.UUCP> Date: Wed, 23-Jan-85 15:56:44 EST Article-I.D.: ttidcc.195 Posted: Wed Jan 23 15:56:44 1985 Date-Received: Mon, 28-Jan-85 05:21:36 EST Organization: TTI, Santa Monica, CA. Lines: 45 >From: bandy@mit-eddie.UUCP (++Andrew Scott Beals) >Subject: hugs vs bugs >Message-ID: <3479@mit-eddie.UUCP> > >I would say that about 25% of the time I would prefer a bug to a hug. > >Does anyone else out there need significant amounts of time alone in order >to maintain your sanity? I've always been a fairly solitary person and needed a lot of space in relationships. Lately (a week or so ago) I finally realized some things about myself I find somewhat comforting. They are: I spend more time alone than I want to, but not a lot more. I have less of a sex life than I want, but not a lot less. I never notice how important my time alone is to me until someone starts making inroads on it. Then I become grumpy and irritable and feel pressured and claustrophobic. Several relationships have broken up because I didn't have the sense to demand more time alone or because my SO couldn't understand how important it was to me. My longest standing friendships are with people I seldom see, often because of geographical separation. As for the sex part, maybe I'm just getting old (at 36?). These days I find it much easier to meet sexual partners than when I was younger. I also find that once a week is more than enough and once a month is acceptable. By now I've done most of the sexual things I'd like to do, so I'm not worried about missing anything. At times I'd rather have a hug and a good night's rest. (This has also contributed to the breakup of some relationships.) After spending most of a recent weekend in bed with a visiting MOTOS, I begin to understand why some women prefer younger men. I'm still not sure why men prefer younger women. My experience is that women don't get older, they get better. -- ============================================================================== The Polymath (Jerry Hollombe) Citicorp TTI If thy CRT offend thee, pluck 3100 Ocean Park Blvd. it out and cast it from thee. Santa Monica, California 90405 (213) 450-9111, ext. 2483 {vortex,philabs}!ttidca!ttidcc!hollombe