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From: chuqui@nsc.UUCP (Chuq Von Rospach)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Living in sin?
Message-ID: <2297@nsc.UUCP>
Date: Thu, 31-Jan-85 13:31:57 EST
Article-I.D.: nsc.2297
Posted: Thu Jan 31 13:31:57 1985
Date-Received: Fri, 1-Feb-85 21:34:19 EST
References: <201@tekred.UUCP> <556@ukma.UUCP>
Reply-To: chuqui@nsc.UUCP (Chuq Von Rospach)
Organization: The Village
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Summary: 

In article <556@ukma.UUCP> red@ukma.UUCP (Red Varth) writes:
>Fer my money, living together before marriage is no guarantee that the
>marriage will work. I have a couple friends who tried it, living together
>for 2 years in one case, and 3 years in the other. Both marriages broke
>up rather acrimoniously. (In one case, He walked in on Her and His best 
>friend.) 

True, but living together IS a good indication that the marriage won't
work-- if you live together and it doesn't work, marriage makes it worse.
The legal paperworks involved in dissolving a marriage (and the
psychological aspects of having to do all of it) make it a much worse
situation. You can stop living together much easier than you can stop being
married. It'll still hurt, but the hurt won't be artificially dragged out
for the 9-12 months it will take to convince the state you live in that you
really, honestly, truely cross your heart and hope to die never want to see
your partners face ever again (which you have to say, even if it isn't
true, or they'll suggest counselling). If they made it as difficult to GET
married as they did to get un-married there would be a lot less failed
marriages, because it would discourage those that were getting married for
the wrong reasons. 

chuq
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