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From: kew@burdvax.UUCP (Karen Wieckert)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Wedding Rings
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Date: Wed, 30-Jan-85 10:13:13 EST
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Posted: Wed Jan 30 10:13:13 1985
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Organization: System Development Corporation, Paoli PA
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(I always feel behind in these discussions.  Work must be alot more
hectic than I thought.)

I wear two plain gold bands on my right hand "ring" finger.  

One of the bands was my grandmother's wedding ring, which was her
mother's wedding ring, which was her mother's ring, etc.  It is
not a priceless ring, monetarily, but it connects me with the 
strong women in my mother's family.

The other band is a newly acquired gift from a good friend.  Many
people comment on these two bands - "So you are into bigamy."
"Ka:ren, I always thought you were single." etc.  Then when I 
explain their existence, the immediate reaction is "You are
married to your grandmother?" or something equally humorous.

I have also had men suggest that I not wear them because it makes
me appear unavailable or gives them the wrong impression.  My life
was never as comfortable as it has become since the acquistion of 
these rings (about 3 years ago).  Men first approach me as friends, 
then move onto whatever.  I don't know those who have been 
"frightened" away, and what I don't know, in this instance, won't 
hurt me.

The only other curious reaction I have received have been from
straight women who thought I was a lesbian.  Something symbolic
about wearing wedding rings on the "wrong" finger.

Ka:ren