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From: haas@utah-gr.UUCP (Walt Haas)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Commitment and marriage
Message-ID: <1323@utah-gr.UUCP>
Date: Wed, 30-Jan-85 16:37:19 EST
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Posted: Wed Jan 30 16:37:19 1985
Date-Received: Sun, 3-Feb-85 01:12:20 EST
Organization: Univ of Utah CS Dept
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As the holder of two divorces, I must say that I second Greg Skinner's
plea for marriage counseling before the marriage.  However, I must
also say that committment may be necessary, but it is definitely not
sufficient, to make a marriage work.  If you are contemplating
marriage and want to avoid my divorced status, I would suggest that
you ask yourself the following fundamental question: "Why do I want
to get married?  *REALLY*?"  If you are marrying for emotional security,
for example, forget it - you can't get emotional security that way.
If you are marrying to please your family, watch out - your partner
may not care much about pleasing your family.  If you are marrying
for a predictable supply of sex, you may not even get it!  Actually,
I personally would have a terrible time trying to think of a reason
that I would want to get married myself - the only thing that comes
to mind is protecting the legal status of children, and I don't have
any children or plan to have any.

Regards  -- Walt Haas