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From: mwm@dartvax.UUCP (M. W. Modrall)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: marriage
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Date: Sun, 3-Feb-85 16:23:27 EST
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Posted: Sun Feb  3 16:23:27 1985
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just a short comment on the marriage controversy...
to the people who suggest that "THEY" make it harder to get married, so that
there will be fewer divorces... personally i find this suggestion an anethma
to my sense of freedom.... why should i allow "THEY" to tamper with my 
decisions??? what right is it of "THEY" to care if i get divorced...

just exercise some common sense people... you sign on to the ship pretty blindly
in all cases, and it is always YOU perrogative to decide when to get off.
love takes work from both side (well maybe not work, "conscious effort" would 
be a better term), and if one or both sides are not willing to invest it any
more than it is just as well that the marriage dies...

it is not a stigma to get out of something that has died... you do it with
friends, best friends and family all throughout your lives, you can do it with
spouses too, and it's better for both parties in the long run anyway... it's
a fact of life... face it... to stay with something that is gone is unnecessarily
sadistic and masochistic...

a better version of the vows would be that you vow to love honor etc,
as long as you can, and thatyou intend to try....

in all other human endeavors, you get points for trying.... why not this one????

Mark Modrall
mwm
Dartmouth college