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From: meyer@waltz.UUCP
Newsgroups: net.kids
Subject: Re: sleeping through the night
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Date: Wed, 30-Jan-85 11:13:00 EST
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Posted: Wed Jan 30 11:13:00 1985
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Nf-From: waltz!meyer    Jan 30 10:13:00 1985

Getting up with kiddo several times through the night is a price that most
of us parents have to suffer through, at least for the first 2 or 3 months
anyway.  The lucky parents find that the child then will start sleeping 
through the night all by themselves without any "conditioning".

We weren't one of the lucky parents, as our boy didn't start sleeping 
through the night regularily until around 9 months.  But he was having
lots of sickly problems like ear infections, bronchitas, roseola, colds,
etc, etc -- so we would jump up and dash into his room at his first peep
because we thought he needed the comforting while he was sick.  Ah, but
when we finally got him healthy, he still remembered that all it took
was a little peep (or a full blown crying session) to get us in there
for a some "sugar".  We soon realized that we had a smart kiddo here, 
and we made some changes.  We would still go in to see if he was OK (no
fever, not a super messy diaper, etc) and give him some love pats, but
then we would go back to our room -- if he didn't like it, he'd cry it
out.  This lasted just three or four nights -- and he started sleeping
all through the night (conditioned?!).

I personally don't think this type of approach (conditioning) is bad 
for kiddo.  I think you will find many more cases as your child grows
up, where they use similar tactics to get you to do what they want you
to do.  But then again, if you think that your child really does "need"
your attention during those cries in the night, I'm sure it won't hurt
him for you to continue getting up -- it's up to you!
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Dane Meyer  (Texas Instruments, Dallas site)
                                                                 
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