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From: rcd@opus.UUCP (Dick Dunn)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: any LDR's out there??? (long distance relationships)
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Date: Wed, 23-Jan-85 00:37:51 EST
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> >anyone else out there involved in one of those wonderful(?) long distance
> >relationships?? (LDR's)...

OK, I was for 5 months...long enough to understand the problem.

> As to advice, LDR's are extremely nasty things that I wouldn't wish on
> anybody. Unfortunately, it seems that the people involved in them certainly
> weren't looking for them...

Well, granted that most people don't go out of their way ("I'm sorry, dear,
but you just live too close for it ever to work out...":-), they still aren't
all that nasty.  They can give you an opportunity to talk and find out a
lot of things--the distance can FORCE you to learn things about one another
that you wouldn't have the time to learn otherwise.  It can also keep you
from acting too precipitously in making a permanent commitment.  Frankly,
if you can't surmount the problem of an LDR, you may have some insurmount-
able problems anyway.

> Communication is a key. It is more important than ever to make sure
> the two of you stay in sync with your thoughts and feelings. You need to
> make sure you set aside times to talk-- phone, mail, e-mail, usenet...

Right!  This is a major factor.  It helps to have net access or something
like that (as in my case, meeting someone who had access to no-cost long
distance phone).

> I have yet to see a relationship flourish with distance,...

Hmmm, mine did...
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Dick Dunn	{hao,ucbvax,allegra}!nbires!rcd		(303)444-5710 x3086
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